Is the Proverbs 31 Lady Even Real?

I've always avoided Proverbs 31. I read it once in college and thought, "Yea, no. That's not me." I would graciously skip over that chapter of scripture because it made me feel so ... inadequate. But one day, a few years ago, I decided to give it another chance. My intention was to read through it and pick it apart and point out all the ways no one human being could be all of those things. The funny thing about scripture, though, is that it very often catches you by surprise and speaks life into your weary heart. God's Word doesn't leave you feeling overwhelmed and stressed. It doesn't just call you higher and then leave you hanging. It calls you higher and then equips you to be someone you didn't know you could be. And that's what this passage did for me. I was challenged, inspired, and equipped to be a better wife and mother.

So let's talk about her. I mean, who wouldn't want to be this girl, right? Her husband is obsessed with her, her children worship the ground she walks on, and we can just assume that everyone in the city wants to know her or be her. Don't you just hate her? I want to be her.  How does she do it? What is her deal? Surely she didn't just wake up beautiful with her life together. Let's see what she's about. 

She works diligently to provide for her family (verses 13, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 24, 27).
She doesn't just think of her family, but is generous and kind to those in need (verses 15 & 20).
And to top it all off, she's wise (verse 16 & 26).

Oh come ON. Does this woman have any flaws at all? But here's the thing that really speaks to me : she's fearless. She doesn't worry about her family, because they're well taken care of (vs. 21). The passage says that "she can laugh at the days to come" (vs. 25). I want to be able to say that! I want to be so wise, so generous, so hard working and vigorous, that I don't have to worry about what will happen to my family. I want to be better and do better and work harder so that I can look at the future and say, "HA! Go ahead! Throw your worst at us. We can handle it, because I've been doing what I need to do and I know I've done my best."

So now this passage I avoided like the plague speaks new life to me and I hope that it does the same for you. Let’s be more like this Proverbs 31 lady. I guarantee she didn’t have her life together 100% of the time, but her husband was proud of her, and her kids called her blessed. Let’s let that be the goal we aim for. Our children and our husbands deserve our best. What’s your best? Is it itching in the back of your mind, begging you to call it front and center? 

Call it out. And then let’s get to work.

Written by : Kristen LaValley